Infertility in Marriage – Why Blame It on Her?

Infertility in marriage can be so emotionally draining, it sucks out the love in your marriage if not properly handled.

Women are frequently assumed by our society to be the primary culprit of infertile marriage, while the male are exonerated. Why must she take blame alone? Why single out the women when there are two people that make up that union?


Millions of women in Africa especially in Nigeria suffers these forms of stigmatization and are victimize due to their inability to conceive, and in most cases, the fault is usually laid on them, without the slightest knowledge that the men could be the cause of the problem. Male infertility most time is handled with discretion to protect male dignity.
Studies have shown that about 9% of men and about 11% of women of reproductive age in the United States have experienced fertility problems, as reported by Eunice Kenedy Shriver National Institute of Child and Human development. It further proved that:

In one-third of infertile couples, the problem is with the man.
In one-third of infertile couples, the problem can’t be identified or is with both the man and woman.
In one-third of infertile couples, the problem is with the woman.

Ways Infertility Can Impact badly on Your Marriage.

We all know that infertility causes emotional stress to couples in marriage. Trying to conceive without result can cause conflict and tension in way.
Here are some of the difficulty brought out by infertility which may affect your marriage.

1. Routine sexual life while trying to conceive

Se.x in marriage should be spontaneous and not programmed. A routine sexual life could be boring and may affect the way both of you envision life to be. Your sexual life may be the victim of conceive stress when you place your se.x life on a routinely bases. Research has shown an increase in sexual dysfunction when timed intercourse is used to get pregnant.

2.   When to seek for help

Do you know when to seek for help?  From a Medical standpoint, the answer is simple. (1) if you have been working so hard to conceive for one year or more, you should see your doctor. (2) if you are age 40 or older, you should seek help after 6 six months.

3.   Fear that your partner may leave you if it is your fault

This is one factor that put a strain in most marriages. The fear that their partner may leave them for someone who can give them a child, if they are the infertile one – This fear is what many couples go through and they never reveals this to their lover. If your love is strong enough there is no need hiding – communicate with your partner and help each other carry the burden.

Causes of Infertility

Infertility is caused by a number of factors. The primary cause of infertility in sub Saharan Africa is infection: sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
For men, the risk factor for infertility include alcohol and drug use, toxins, smoking, age, health problems, medicines, radiation, and chemotherapy. While in women the Risk factors include ovulation problems, blocked Fallopian tubes, uterine problems, uterine fibroids, age, stress, poor diet, athletic training, including the risk factors listed for men.
In a nutshell, infertility is not only restricted to women, it affect men too. My question is why laid the blame on the women?
Infertility in marriage is a serious case; it comes with a lot of trauma in marriage. Couples who are going through this situation should relate with those who have gone through this challenge in the past. Continuous communication and speaking with a doctor must be encouraged. Above all, love conquers all.  

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